Today I have everything in disorder: my hair, my bed, my heart. .. I no longer have anyone who chases away my fears and embraces my soul, but I promise you that I will collect every lost piece, I will sweep up my voids and I will bind my sufferings so that none of this prevents me from dressing again with smiles, with hopes.
All of us at one time or another live in a life situation where suddenly everything seems to be in disorder. Our personal compasses no longer point north and, almost without knowing how, we reach the edge of the abyss. Now, believe it or not, in those moments we have only two options: to fall into the abyss and hit the bottom or to go up to change, to a new personal fulfillment.
It is curious to analyze for a moment the etymological meaning of the word “crisis”. It comes from the Greek and gives rise to two very interesting terms, “the breaking of something” and the opportunity to “analyze” that something.
When our life is so messy that we don’t even know which foot to start walking on, there is nothing better than analyzing the broken parts of us to understand ourselves better and then heading towards change. We invite you to reflect on this topic together.
A disordered brain trying to survive the chaos
This information may surprise you, but know that our brains did not evolve just to allow us to be happier. In fact, each generation continues to have almost the same emotional and existential problems as their ancestors. Our gray matter, as it were, is not a guru in terms of happiness.
The brain has only one need: to ensure our survival. Here are explained, for example, the fears, those instinctive mechanisms that have proved to be very effective for primitive man, to defend himself from possible predators. Nowadays our fears are less concrete and less tangible: we are afraid of loneliness, of failure, of not being loved, of not meeting certain expectations. ..
To all this is added another essential aspect. According to a study published in the Review of General Psychology , negative experiences leave a deeper imprint in our brains than positive ones. However, their purpose is clear: to give us new information in order to better survive in the new situations that life puts before us.
Consequently, the brain perceives those moments of crisis and personal disorder as “small threats” to survival. This is why it “invites” us to adapt better to the context and, sometimes, there is only one way to do it: change.
How to face the crossroads of life
Few things leave the heart in a mess like a love breakup. The emotional and personal investment is so high in these situations that after saying goodbye, we can’t help but hide in the shell of our loneliness to hear the noise of all those lost, broken dreams.
Since we now know that our brain does not have that natural switch to make us happy again, we remember the many other things it possesses: resilience, the ability to cope with adversity and a very high creative capacity to find the best strategy with to get out of the crossroads of life.
We now give you some simple tips that may help you.
Tips to restore order and find personal balance
When everything is in disorder, there is nothing better than the little pleasures in life. It may seem silly, but when our mind lives too much in the past and fears the future, it must be anchored to the present with simple and pleasant activities.
- Go out for a walk, break the routine, the habits of daily life. This way you will see things from another perspective.
- Understand that living is first of all making decisions. At any crossroads, the only thing that is required of you is to be responsible for yourself.
- To make decisions, you first need adequate inner calm. Maybe now you just feel the disorder of your emotions and feelings, but there will always come that moment when you have to stop and become aware of where you are and what you need.
- Give yourself a chance. Start with small changes and see what happens. If you like the result, then take a bigger step, dare a bigger change and you will see how many hills and mountains you can move.
In conclusion, even if it surprises you, know that you must not take too seriously and fear those moments of personal disorder. Instead of giving them a negative connotation, it is better to see them for what they are: storm clouds without certainty that force you to open your colored umbrella to chase the storm.