“My happiness lies in appreciating what I have without craving for what I don’t have”
Does repeating make you happy? Many of the books designed to help people live happily propose repeating a few passwords every morning. Words for when you are feeling sad or frustrated. Repeat every hour. But does repeating really make you happy? Repetition reconfirms one’s beliefs. It stimulates the subconscious by making it conscious for yourself. But is this enough to be happy? The answer is yes, but only if you already were.
Repeating something you already hear and are convinced of, even if unconsciously, simply serves to reaffirm it. Sometimes you are aware of a fact, but only after repeating it for many times do you begin to feel good. Because you are sending yourself positive messages.
If you’re not feeling happy, is it worth repeating? No, because you will only get more frustration. It is very difficult to deceive you. You are intelligent. If you repeat something to yourself that your subconscious already knows is not real, you will feel even more distressed and frustrated as you have not been able to get what you wanted.
There are as many “happinesses” as there are people
Your way of feeling happy is unique. Everyone sees and perceives happiness differently. Seek your own happiness. This is not a pre-made sentence, it is a reality. What makes your family, your neighbor happy, does not necessarily correspond to what makes you happy.
For some, happiness lies in achieving enormous success, for others fame, still others wealth. For some, it could be finding the love of their life, discovering a new writer, or listening to their favorite music.
Every moment of life is different. All of you have evolved and will continue to do so. What once made you happy may no longer arouse any interest in you. This phenomenon happens because the goals you have set for yourself have changed, and only achieving them can make you feel good.
Happiness is made up of two parts
The first is to understand what makes you happy. Know what your needs, your aspirations, your desires are. This is the right way to go to find happiness. If you are one of those people who are already thinking about the next when they reach one goal, try to change this habit. You can’t always be on the move, sometimes you need to stop and enjoy your successes.
Learn to enjoy the results. Appreciate all the efforts you have made and the work it has cost you, so you will know what happiness is and you will discover how nice it is to stop for a moment and be pleased.
Then you can continue towards a new goal, it is normal that this is the case. Whenever a need is met, new ones arise. It is important that you keep in mind what your goals are, what you really want to do. Sometimes it is believed that doing a different job than what you usually do or dealing with things that normally do not fit into your habits or routines, you will not succeed. Yet you know very well that this is not the case.
The second step is to do what you really want. It is often difficult to project yourself into an unconventional dimension, but if that is what makes you happy, you have to do it. If you like painting, dance, poetry, go for it.
There is no need to abandon everything like they do in movies, devoting yourself exclusively to that. You can start by trying little by little. Try to understand what you feel while doing it, and if what you feel is happiness… you will have hit the mark. Devote yourself entirely to your passion and you will see that you will do great things.
Remove adverse situations
Try to avoid anything that drains your energy. Avoid stress and unfounded arguments, all of which, in addition to hurting you, do not allow you to see what is happening around you.
Probably a myriad of beautiful things are happening around you, things that have to do with your goals, yet you fail to appreciate them because you are inundated with other situations or issues.
It is extremely important that you set your priorities well. Prioritize your happiness. Sure, earning a lot of money makes you feel good, but that doesn’t have to be your only goal. It is more important to be happy, and you will have to strive to make it so.
“ Happiness lies in the path, not in the goal. Work as if you don’t need the money, love as if you’ve never been hurt, dance as if no one is watching . ” Anonymous.
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