The Life Line To Get To Know Each Other Better

After tracing the line of life, it is necessary to deepen the meaning of each element. This requires reflective analysis

During the therapeutic process, a great variety of techniques and tools are used to improve self-knowledge and understanding; among these one is the line of life. Although it is a technique from a humanist and systemic perspective, it is used by psychologists belonging to different currents due to its importance in obtaining information about the patient / client.

Each of us is history, is present and future, and everything flows into our individuality. We are also the story of what happened to us and knowing how to order it and give it meaning is essential to grow, gain self-confidence and accept ourselves without delay.

In this article we will see what the lifeline technique consists of and when it is okay to use it.

The life line, how does it work?

This technique is based on analysis and reflection; in fact, it is not enough to put it to draw the line of one’s life to obtain a result, on the contrary

it is necessary

an analytical and reflective effort. First of all, analyzing all or part of the history of our life (life line) allows us to channel and manage the different emotions associated with it: the same with which we often live, but also the most unconscious ones.

After tracing the line of life, it is necessary to deepen the meaning of each element. This requires a reflective analysis that starts with questions such as: what has changed in me as a result of this event? What did I lose and what did I gain in that moment? Did I get over this experience?

In this way, it is possible to process experiences in a healthy and adaptive way, so as to know and understand each other better by combining one’s past with one’s present in a constructive way.

Girl writing

When to draw the line of life

The line of life can be drawn at (almost) any moment; however, it is more appropriate to do so at the beginning of a therapeutic process or when you want to end a chaotic phase of your life. It is also a perfect technique to get to know each other better, since understanding everything that has been experienced allows us to give meaning to our actions and our feelings.

On the other hand, it is not recommended to perform this technique immediately after experiencing painful and traumatic experiences. According to a study carried out at the University of Arizona, during a period of bereavement or reaction to a loss we may observe phases of depression. Our analysis could therefore be altered by the negative connotation typical of traumatic and loss periods.

The steps to follow

It is necessary to establish two phases of work: to draw the line of life and to make a critical-reflective analysis. Therefore, first of all you will need to have pen and paper, draw a straight line and start indicating the following points in chronological order:

1- Vital events such as the date of birth, the date of birth of siblings, cousins ​​and children, the death of loved ones, the beginning of a couple’s life, marriage… For this part we can use a blue pen.

2- Significant or more important events that represented a change. For example, a move, the beginning or end of studies, a meaningful journey. For this step you can use a green pen.

Thoughtful boy

3- Moments of inflection. These are to be understood as keys for opening critical phases or situations that are accepted and adequately elaborated. We can use the color red for moments of inflection, emphasizing those that we feel have made us stronger.

4- Situations or moments of “detachment”. We refer to the events that marked a before and an after in our life, perceived as moments of rupture and which may have been difficult or traumatic to process. For these events we can use black or another dark color that contrasts with all the others.

After drawing the line of life, we can take the time to analyze the impact that each marked event has had on our life. It is important to go beyond the layout of the line, delving into all the various consequences. Remember: knowing yourself is necessary for the development and overcoming of your personal limits.

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