How To Help Chronic Pain Sufferers

How to help chronic pain sufferers

Chronic pain is one of the products of the modern world. It used to be rare, but now its incidence is increasing. There are those who suffer from it due to a disease, perhaps also chronic. Others, however, experience less intense and persistent pain and science has not yet found the cause and cure. The worst thing, however, is that life can become a real hell where the pain doesn’t go away and you can’t get used to it.

Until a few decades ago, severe diseases caused relatively rapid deterioration. People died without a cure. Today, however, science has found several ways to extend the life of a sick person. Some diseases have come back or have worsened their symptoms, such as those involving nerve cells. The result is that many people can live with the disease and a high degree of suffering for several years.

Physical pain is one of the most frequent manifestations of almost all diseases. In some cases it is a disabling condition. You can’t ignore it, ignore the pain. You live to feel that pain or to relieve it with drugs so strong that they compromise many channels that you use to communicate with your body and with the outside world. It gives the feeling of being there, without really being there.

It is a tragic situation. Not only for those suffering from chronic pain, but also for the people around them. Pain significantly affects the mood and over time generates changes in personality. Those who find themselves in this condition sometimes become intractable. And those around him often do not know how to proceed to improve the situation of the loved one. For this reason, today we want to give you some advice.

Be aware of your limitations towards the pain of others

If you have a person with chronic pain next to you, a feeling of guilt usually develops. We don’t realize it, but it happens frequently. We see a person suffering and we can only offer them palliative care which does not always work. We feel the weight of the pain, but there is not much we can do.

All this generates great anxiety. There are strong feelings of helplessness. Usually comes the idea “there will be something I can and must do”. We try one way, then another, but in the end, at best, we can only offer temporary relief.

The first thing we want to tell you is to try to reduce the feeling of helplessness by withdrawing your forces from the fronts where you have used them for a long time and without results. It is important that you inform yourself about everything you can do and that you understand the limits of all this. Your task is to do everything within your reach in the best possible way. If you go any further, whatever force you want to use will come back to you like a ball thrown into the wall.

Sometimes the only thing you can do is stand by this person in silence. You will make her understand that you are close to her and that you are willing to accept her suffering. What you cannot do is erase that pain. Perhaps it is enough to ask how you can help yourself and, if it is a doable thing, do it. In many cases, for example, the sick person will prefer your company to your trying to find ways to compensate for their pain with gifts.

Help yourself first

You cannot give to others what you yourself do not have. It is about giving a little well-being to the person who is suffering, not the other way around, that is to enter into his pain too. So, the first responsibility you have is towards yourself and that is to feel comfortable with yourself as much as possible.

This means that you must recognize your needs. Sure, you can give a lot to this person, but there are countless things that you or anyone else cannot do. You can become stronger, improve your life to improve the life of the other.

In particular, it is important that you learn to safeguard your spaces. You need to say “no” in certain circumstances. The chronic pain of a sick person can absorb you. This person may also unload their frustrations on you. He is facing a very difficult situation and sometimes he will just put the blame on you or ask you for more than you can give. All this is understandable. However, it does not mean that his reproaches are well founded or that you are as he describes you in moments of anger.

It will help you a lot to learn when to step away from the situation in question. With kindness and affection, you will make this person understand that she too can help you, respecting your spaces and the moments when you are not together. The ability to offer healthy support to sufferers depends on one’s well-being. Even if the person refuses you or tries to infect you with his bad mood, your presence and your availability will be a great help for him. Remember that!

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