Happiness Is Also Learned. Here’s How To Do It!

Happiness is also learned.  Here's how to do it!

“Happiness consists in realizing that nothing is too important”

Antonio Gala

In the name of happiness, many lies and half-truths are told, which are even more dangerous, because their mask is more convincing.

The collective imagination suggests that it is a kind of “Nirvana” that we must not lose hope of accessing. A kind of state of wholeness and constant luck.

Every age and every society establishes an inventory of the characteristics or conditions that must be respected in order to enter this splendid earthly paradise. Today, the idea of ​​happiness rests on three pillars: power, wealth and beauty.

However, paradoxically, the idea of ​​Nirvana and its three pillars caused more frustration than happiness. Power, as well as wealth and beauty, do not seem to have the completeness effect that some bestow upon it.

Quite the contrary. If these characteristics were the only and indispensable sources of happiness, we would not see addictions increase among the rich and powerful people and we would not receive news of wealthy protagonists of dramas in their real life.

What is happiness? How do you get it?

A study carried out by Professor Tal Ben-Shahar, a positive psychology expert at Harvard University, suggests that the feeling of happiness can be learned!

The means of acquiring this knowledge are the same as those used to access any other skill: technical and practical.

According to Tal Ben-Shahar, the six keys to happiness are as follows.

1. Learn to celebrate failures

Those who are able to value their failures in a positive way are able to be happier. Believing oneself infallible is very harmful, as is thinking that one has no right to make mistakes. In addition to all this, it is an idealistic position and, at the same time, tyrannical with ourselves.

Isn’t error the daily bread? Hasn’t science itself, which is a model of precision and perfection, seen thousands of errors throughout history?

Thinking that you don’t have to, or can’t, make mistakes is a nonsense idea that only causes anxiety and depression.

2. Be grateful for what you have

It is often thought that health, family or work are forever fixed realities and that is why we do not attribute a relevant value to them in our life. We take it for granted that they are part of our possessions and forget that, in a second, it is possible to lose any of these treasures.

Unfortunately, day after day, we forget to be grateful for all the daily miracles that seem “normal” to us and we realize their immense value and how important they are only when they are no longer there.

3. The endorphins

They are the hormones of happiness. They are found in our brains and we always have them close at hand, but we don’t know how to use them. A half hour walk each day helps release a sufficient dose of endorphins. A 10 second hug is enough for at least 3 minutes full of endorphins and happiness.

The question is simple: if we get used to practicing habits that release endorphins, for sure our life will be happier.


4. Simplify your life

It is true that you only live once, but that does not mean that you have to try to live everything at the same time. One of the contemporary diseases is wanting to do many things at the same time and, if possible, all very quickly. Neither physical health nor mental health can endure a life that runs like an overly loaded train for long.

Learn to organize yourself. Give each activity the time it needs and its value. Eliminate all those chores that steal precious moments in your life. You probably won’t starve if you work a little less. On the other hand, however, you could pay a very high price if you take time away from yourself or the people you love the most.

5. Meditation

You don’t have to become a Tibetan Dalai Lama. It is enough to dedicate a few moments of the day to find balance through the exercise of a very simple practice: meditation.

Meditation has proven to be a great support for achieving inner peace. In addition, it improves the functioning of cognitive, creative and willpower skills.


6. Cultivate resilience

Yes, resilience can be cultivated. It is not an innate ability, it is developed. It is defined as the ability to face adverse situations and come out stronger. This is much easier said than done.

To be resilient, you have to work hard. Focus on finding the flower in the mud: teaching in the midst of difficulties. It is a path to wisdom and happiness, defined in realist terms: a relative inner peace and a constant ability to find the best of the world in which we have come to live.

Image courtesy of José Ramírez

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