There are expressions drawn by hatred. These are words or phrases that are almost always used in times of anger and whose goal is to destroy. The serious thing is that many times they manage to achieve their purpose: they injure, mark and can even devastate a person. They are almost always issued by someone who holds false authority.
While we sometimes have differences with others, there are some expressions that we should never allow ourselves to say. And we shouldn’t do that because it’s about violent messages. We do not speak of that aggression born of contradictions or differences, but of violent actions that cause further violence and destruction.
The person using these expressions should reflect on what prompts him to pronounce them. These statements, in fact, conceal something that goes beyond anger. There is no doubt that we benefit from eliminating these words from our vocabulary, even the offenses have a reasonable limit. Below, therefore, we show you five expressions to which it is better to say goodbye.
5 expressions not to use
Stupid… and synonyms
We should be careful not to call someone “stupid”, “stupid”, “slow” or by the numerous synonyms of these words. These are offensive terms if they are pronounced outside of a relaxed and playful context; especially when they are said in anger or in a derogatory tone.
It is an offense aimed at the very essence of the person. His mental abilities are disqualified. In this sense, these labels go far beyond the limits of criticism. It is an act of psychological violence which aims to destroy. We should never use such expressions with anyone, as no one deserves it.
It is one of the most used expressions, especially after most commercial films began to use the term “loser” or “loser” as a favorite offense. In highly competitive, and above all consumerist societies, success has very precise limits and an absolute connotation.
A less obtuse perspective leads us to understand that this label rarely, if ever, makes sense. The times of success alternate with those of losses. Each of us sometimes wins and sometimes loses. No one is a chronic failure, just as no one is an absolute winner. However, attributing this label to others means trying to classify them with a denomination that deprives them of their personal and social value.
You are useless
This expression certainly becomes violent when it is uttered by a power figure, whatever it is: a parent, a teacher, a politician, etc. It is in these cases that its most destructive power is revealed. In any case, under any circumstances it is regrettable that one human being addresses another in these terms.
To call someone “useless” is to question all their actions. It is an absolutist adjective: it refers to the person as a whole. It is aimed at canceling the other person, making him disappear into a category of human values. There is no constructive form in which this word can be used.
You can’t or you won’t
It is another categorical expression that turns out to be not only offensive, but also false. Who has the “crystal ball” to determine that someone fails or will not be able to do something? History is full of people who said “you won’t make it” and then had to change their mind.
What we do not know is the high number of attempts that have not been made due to the lack of trust induced by others. The human being is changeable and life is dynamic. What you can’t do today, maybe it will become easier to do tomorrow. It must be understood that no one has the right to tell another person that they will not succeed.
It is one of the meanest expressions, as it is not even a direct insult. Someone is “weird”, based on what? What are the parameters used to categorize someone as strange? Finally, what’s the problem with being weird?
This term is used to hurt, to attack the dignity of another person. Strangeness is, above all, a virtue. Often times what is particular is not more valuable than what is common? So the problem does not lie in the strangeness per se. This word is used to label and exclude, so that the other feels “different” from the norm or what is considered acceptable.
If you are one of those easily irritable people, it would be necessary to understand the dynamics that are triggered. Remember that words, once spoken, cannot go back and trying to undo the damage created by them will be almost a mission impossible. Destructive expressions can lead to more serious conflicts to which it is difficult to find solutions.